Resentment and forgiveness

More than ever in my life I'm trying to find peace. Get to Safe. Feel safe, and in this work I'm doing therapy and trying to find answers. One item I am dealing with is deep deep resentment. Searching for answers and looking for ways to break it down and digest it I found a post from another person dealing with resentment who said "Resentment is the poison you drink everyday hoping the other person will die" 

First I don't want anyone to die, yet this carries truth. I think for me the "Hoping the other prerson will die" is probably more like "Resentment is the poison you drink everyday trying to heal the rage, and anger and hurt you feel that was caused by that other persons actions"

<SNIP .. a whole lot of deleted resentment evidence here>

I deleted 3 paragraphs of me sharing why I resent. It doesn't need to be shared. needless to say I carry a lot of resentment. 

 So what do we do.... how do we heal ourselves? 

I don't have all the answers but a few truths:

  • Forgive the person you resent
  • Work on You
  • Become aware that they have problems too
  • Understand "Life Tasks" nobody owns yours and you don't own theirs
  • Get some hobbies
  • Plan for the "new" future
  • Don't care whether the person you resent thrives. Does it matter? No. 
  •  Seek Therapy. Therapy..talking with someone helps...
  • Slowly move apart from them, Boundaries 
  • Read and seek knowledge and new experiences
  • Feel your emotions. let them come, and then let them go.  Its OK to cry and feel.


I hope this helps anyone who is seeking answers to how to heal resentment.

If you read this and have tips that can help to heal resentment, please share them.

Thank you for reading.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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